Social Media Scrooge

Two more weeks until Christmas!

As the big day approaches and the already frenzied activity on social media becomes even more frenzied, I find myself becoming a little Scrooge-like. Perhaps I’m developing a curmudgeonly streak in my (relatively) old age, but I have less and less patience these days with social media shouters. Part of it’s my fault: I probably follow too many people indiscriminately, but I do like to show that I support other writers and that my communication isn’t a one-way street.

Last week — after gnashing my teeth in frustration — it struck me that maybe the individuals raising my dander weren’t actually aware of the mistakes they were making. So, in the spirit of the season and to help said individuals, I’ve decided to compile a list of what I find annoying on Twitter and Facebook. I realise it’s a personal thing and everyone has different thresholds, but please feel free to chip in with your own or challenge what I’ve written.

Twitter

  • Endless tweets featuring glowing quotes from reviewers, complete with Amazon link. I don’t mind a few here and there, but when I keep seeing the same glowing quotes without any personal interaction from the same account, it gets old, fast.
  • Calling your own book ‘the next best-seller’ or something equally lofty. I understand we need to have confidence in our work etc, but this just makes me cringe — and doesn’t do you any favours.
  • Sending me a DM asking me to RT something you’ve tweeted. First of all, if I wanted to RT, I would. And secondly, it’s annoying to scroll through all your tweets to find what you want me to tweet about!
  • ‘I’ll retweet you if you retweet me.’ Um, no. I’ll RT you if I want to, and I don’t expect you to automatically do the same for me.
  • ‘Thanks for following! Please like my Facebook page.’ As above.
  • Endless RTs of the same thing. I understand RT’ing a few times to catch different time zones, but sometimes I’ve seen the same thing for days on end.

Facebook

  • Sending messages as soon as I ‘friend’ you, asking me to read and critique your work.
  • Ditto for asking me to like your FB page as soon as I friend you, or asking me to buy your book. At least say hello first!
  • Tagging me in photos completely unrelated to, well, anything!
  • Posting about your book on my wall without asking me first.

Gosh, I think I’ve run out of steam (and ire!).  Let me finish on a positive note by saying that I’ve met many great people through social media and I think it’s a great tool to connect writers with readers. But, like anything, it needs to be used properly.

What have I missed? What behaviour have you seen on social media that drives you crazy – or, on the flip side,  that you find particularly effective?

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Comments

  1. D.J.Kirkby says:

    A comprehensive list Talli….the one thing I could add is when I RT things for people or when I reply to an author’s tweet saying I can’t make their book signing / event and giving a valid explanation why (for example recovering from surgery) and receiving no response. That REALLY winds me up. Being courteous in return (even if at a later date because of busy lives) should be the minimum standard, surely….

    • Talli Roland says:

      Great point, DJ. Politeness and courtesy doesn’t cost anything! I must admit I do sometimes miss RTs when TweetDeck goes funny, but I try my best to thank those who do RT me.

    • Realistically, D.K., expecting a response to your response might be unrealistic.

      If we’re retweeting for people (meaning they’ve asked), then a “thank you” might be in order. But if we’re retweeting because we want to share something that engaged us, why is there an expectation of a response from its source?

      If we’re doing something (anything) with the expectation of a certain response, we might chose not to that thing until we can do it with no strings attached. No strings = no stings. ;-)

  2. Hi Talli – I find I have a lot more tolerance of ‘bad’ etiquette on Twitter than on Facebook. FB always seems quite personal to me and all of the things that wind you up wind me up too! I can’t stand it when someone posts a pic of their book on my page who have 2 seconds earlier become a ‘friend’. It’s just bad manners. Play nicely and an awful lot of writers are naturally supportive there’s no need to hit people over the head with a marketing hammer!

    • Talli Roland says:

      Hi Carole! I’m the same – although Twitter does wind me up, Facebook has a personal element to it. And you’re right: writers are so supportive anyway and much more likely to help you out if you don’t harp on constantly about your novels!

  3. Nicola says:

    Tagging me in photos that are not only just not of me, but of some obscure moment I was not a part of, is my pet hate. I don’t understand the point. Especially when I have never met the person doing this and they have only just become a facebook friend. Are they trying to get my attention? I’m still trying to figure it out.

  4. Anne Mackle says:

    My goodness there’s a few things on your list that I didn’t realise people did. There’s one woman on twitter who tweets lines from her book about 50 times a day.I kid you not. It drives me mad and if someone tweets they enjoyed her book she RT’s that another 50 times. I unfollows her and she asks me why so I follow her again (because Im a coward) . I did enjoy her book but I’m loathe to tell her.

  5. Glynis Smy says:

    Good list, Talli.

    I hate the ‘thanks for following, here is the link to my blog, site or book’ DM’s that I receive.

    Another dislike of mine is the fact that some folk never say thank you for when I have agreed to showcase them on New Book Blogger, and set it up. Bad manners. It takes me ages to do five posts on a Sunday, the least they could do for free advertising is say thanks.

  6. Melisa says:

    You hit so many of my ‘hot’ buttons. Thanks for sharing!

  7. ROFL: You’ll learn to be more tolerant when master TR appears, of which I wish you all the best come the joyous moment of his first scream for attention!

    ;)

    I do think there’s an awful lot of bad netiquette around, but the more desperate people are for attention the more they shout… It’s a sad fact of life… I don’t mind promo on promo outlets, and a one-off post on a timeline. Unfortunately, attention seeking comes in many guises: the constant winer – the must tell you my life story – the one who starts a debate but closes it down when they’ve fluffed it with a faux pas (thoughtless comment). If you’re ill, fair enough, mention it by all means but please, not a running commentary on your treatment. Perhaps the latter sounds a tad cruel, but I think people sympathise more if given brief details as to your complaint and the occasional update, but ongoing treatment is best kept between close friends and family. My biggest grump is some other bugger posting on my timeline without asking first!

    Have a lovely Christmas

    F

    • Talli Roland says:

      Francine, I shall try to get my patience in order! :)

      Oh, I hear you on the illness thing. I understand why people want to share and have support, but… when you’re doing it in a public sphere with readers and other writers, too many details constantly can be very off-putting.

      And I agree on the timeline posting without asking first!

  8. Susan Alison says:

    Heh – Talli – I can’t imagine anyone less Scrooge-like… But I totally agree with everything you say! (But then, I’m always Scrooge-like when it comes to people invading ‘my’ space with stuff that I haven’t asked for…). I no longer look at DMs at all because they’re always full of self-puff. Tweets back at me that are only links and nothing else are annoying. People who seem to think that my time is theirs to dispose of as they choose are not welcome in my space so I’m going to ignore everything they say and probably unfollow them when I can find the time to do so… *Off to find Bah Humbug hat now, too…

    • Talli Roland says:

      DMs are usually spam these days, aren’t they, Susan? Sad, really. And yes, some people seem to have no idea of personal boundaries or courtesy.

      If you find a Bah Humbug hat, can you send one my way? :)

  9. Lois Lavrisa says:

    Talli- I am so with you on all that you wrote- it drives me nuts. These author annoyances are like spoiled little kids always jumping up and down and pulling your sleeve “Look at me! Look at me!” Ugh- I just delete them:)

  10. Mandy Baggot says:

    BUY MY BOOK! It’s the next bestseller don’t you know?! I agree with most of your points, Talli. I hate the DMs asking me to do something!
    I do tweet lines from my book and I do tweet links to my Amazon page but I’m very conscious about this and try to a) make the tweets fun and interesting and b) only do them once every couple of hours. Connecting with friends on Twitter is what I find most fun, oh and telling people what I’m eating, but I do find if I don’t tweet my Amazon links every day my sales do go down. It’s all about striking the right balance…by the way you can find my books at…ONLY JOKING!

    Mandy x

    • Talli Roland says:

      Mandy, haha!

      You’ve made a good point – it’s all about balance, isn’t it? If you interact as a real person too and find a way to drive sales, that’s ideal!

  11. Sibel Hodge says:

    Good list, Talli. Merry Tweeting Xmas! ;)

  12. Janet O'Kane says:

    I’m a big fan of Twitter and agree with everything you say.
    My additional gripe would be about the folk who perpetuate these unwelcome activities by (a) following anyone who follows them and (b) giving in and RT-ing stuff they’re asked to. If we were all a bit more discriminating and didn’t measure our ‘success’ by the number of followers we achieve, Twitter would be a nicer, less spammy place.
    I also hate how #ff acknowledgements fill my timeline by going to everyone else named not just the person being thanked.
    All that being said, I’ve made lots of friends on Twitter and wouldn’t be without it, warts and all!

    • Talli Roland says:

      I’m with you on the #ff, Janet. It was fun at first, but now… I’ve kind of opted out. I always thank those who #ff me, but that’s it now. I couldn’t keep up!

      I’ll follow other writers or those in the publishing industry, but I’ve started being more brutal about unfollowing people who continuously promote their book and do little else.

    • Beautifully stated, Janet. :-)

  13. I have one….

    Inviting/including me in a new Facebook group when you haven’t even spoken to me about it! I don’t know how many “12 Days of Christmas,” “Authors Blogging Authors,” “Writers Working Together” and “Team Wonder Power Writing” type Facebook groups I’ve been added to without even so much as a personal invitation. All of a sudden, I’m added to this group and my email is getting clogged with introductions and umpteen plans of how these authors are going basically market their book to OTHER authors and at first I tried to help out and steer them in the right direction. Now I just click Leave the Group as fast as I can!

    • Talli Roland says:

      Oh, yes, Elizabeth! Thanks for covering that one. SO annoying to be added to groups. I’ve been added to some VERY strange ones, too, which have made me raise an eyebrow!

  14. All of the above on Twitter to a greater or lesser extent plus my own personal dislike of hashtag puns (based on films, books, songs etc) which I really find both unfunny and tedious. Lists of #ff also annoy me. Please pick one or two and say why they’re worth following. I can read your following list anytime. I can see #ff was good at one stage but I’ve dropped out. I just say thank you if someone mentions me.
    I used to follow writers back out of politeness on Twitter but it became unmanageable. I’ve now cut back to following around 250-300 and prefer being able to follow what individuals are saying and interact. I say I don’t always autofollow back in my profile and I look down their last tweets to see what they’re like. If they’re plugging away and it’s not publication day (or something else significant), I’ll give them a miss. I find they’ll unfollow me after a few days anyway.
    I also look at the number of followers and the ratio of following to followed. If it’s significantly lower than 1, then people are following that person out of genuine interest not just swapping follows. A person who follows 10K isn’t going to read your tweets anyway.
    I’m on Facebook but I think it’s a complete mess. I’m lucky that I only get friend requests from people I do know so I just see pictures of people’s children and Christmas trees :-)
    I did become a bit fed up with social media about six months ago but being ruthless, and accepting I will never have legions of followers who are genuinely interested in me has got me back to a much better place.

    • Talli Roland says:

      Oh,boo, I just wrote a long response and then my computer crashed!

      Those are great tips to know the people ‘worth’ following, Peter, thank you.

    • Peter-

      Respectfully, I think you are missing out on the List functionality of Twitter. No one sits on Twitter all day (except a few of those who are addicted) and the life time of a tweeted message is only a few minutes. After that, it’s pretty much dead. And people stop in to see what’s going on at that very moment, not to dig through a ton of 140 char messages for deep and meaningful correspondence.

      I used to think like you, that I wanted QUALITY contacts, not quantity. Honesty, no matter what number of followers you have, after a few minutes, your message is pretty much dead. Every once in awhile you can get messages going back and forth, but not that often. As a tool, Twitter is a broadcast. The only way to boost your signal is to have as many followers as possible, and a key percentage that you interact with frequently. As you tweet and others RT and other followers who overlap and follow all of you, there’s a great chance they’ll see ONE of the messages about the sale, event, blog post, or cool thing you are saying.

  15. Angela Brown says:

    I would like to say the things on your list are just bout being “old” but that I would have to also say that I’m “old”. Which isn’t the case when we’re both aging gracefully, thank you very much :-)

    When I first started with Twitter, I thought it was something cool to get a “thanks for the follow” but then the “Thanks” started coming back in DMs with “review my book” or “I RT to 100,000 people if you critique my story”. Then I wanted to end my Twitter account but thought better of it. Once I learned the art of ignoring – and being okay with it – I decided to keep the account so I could tweet about my own novel, quotes that interest me, quotes my brain made up or thoughts ambling about in my head. Mixing me in with the promo. Trying to find a neat balance. Still struggling with it, but working on it.

    • Talli Roland says:

      We’re not old, Angela. Yet! :)

      I think finding the right balance comes with practice, and just kind of feeling your way around. We all make mistakes – I’m sure I made many of the ones annoying me now – but using common sense and courtesy will hopefully see us through.

  16. Monica Davis says:

    Talli, good to know…I’ve set up a Twitter account but have not yet “tweeted”, for some of the very reasons you write about…not sure of the proper usage, want to be respectful, and when should I respond to another. Has there been a blog article from this group (or one of its contributors) that offers guidelines for “best practices” on Twitter? If so, please shout it out for the “Twitter newbies” to read. If not, could someone in the know please post one? Thanks!!

  17. D.D. Scott says:

    For me, it’s all about truly “hangin’” with peeps and getting to know them and have fun with them! One of the best things I’ve ever done to increase my following is taking my Bitchy Sign Collection online! Peeps just luuuvvv that, and know I’ve got my readers collecting ‘em and sharin’ the luv too! :-)

    I’m with you in that the constant posts re book quotes and reviews are a turn-off. I simply don’t read them. I just glaze right on by to the next message in my streams.

    The only time you’ll ever see me talk books is: (1) I give the links to my new releases as soon as they’re live (my readers actually asked me to do that across all platforms), (2) I thank my readers whenever I’ve hit a milestone, like last week’s Movers and Shakers List, and (3) I give other authors nice shout-outs when I’m reading their books so my readers will try you too. — But that’s it! The rest of my online fun is just that…fun…silly fun!!!

    • Talli Roland says:

      Great point, DD – it really is all about interacting with people. I talk about my new releases and milestones, too, and I do try to keep a balance. But I agree, your online presence should be mainly about having fun!

  18. Talli, I think everything’s been covered. My biggest complaint is having your name added to groups on fb without even a courtesy email. I belong to enough groups which tend to generate tons of additional email I don’t need. Most of these groups are nothing more than author after author posting their cover with a buy link – ok ladies and gents, once or twice a day is enough. Haven’t they figured out their primary target is NOT another author. My second biggest complaint and this has happened to me numerous times over the past week is businesses spamming my author page. Oh, they are kind enough to hit the like button, then come back and advertise what ever they are trying to sell 3 and 4 times a day (every day) on the one and only page I post blurbs, book release notices etc. Come on folks, get your own page and your own followers for that! Sorry I got on my fill-a-buster. Hopefully thanks to your post word will leak out what is polite and what isn’t. A foot note – an author who goes after the media like a used car salesman isn’t going far in this world. (At least in my book). Again thanks for addressing this issue.

    • Talli Roland says:

      Hi Virginia! Thanks for dropping by and sharing your view. The group thing annoys me, too – as well as people who hit ‘like’ on my page and then implore me to instantly do the same. Argh!

  19. JamieSalisbury (@JamieRSalisbury) says:

    Great post Talli! Wish folks would learn from this – well we can always dream! Thanks.

  20. Seeley James says:

    Amen! You are absolutely right. Besides, I’m not sure how much good social media does to draw new readers anyway. I’m launching The Geneva Decision this week and will be tweeting/FB’ing lightly but not to sell the book. I’m planning to draw attention to the guest blogs I’m doing on related topics: unusual heroines, best indie books of 2012, gender specific reactions, etc.

    Do you think that’s a better approach?

    Peace, Seeley

    • Talli Roland says:

      Hi Seeley! I definitely think that’s a better approach than straight-up tweeting etc about the book. I really think the key is to engage the reader with questions and issues, and it sounds like you’re planning to do just that. Best of luck! Keep us posted on how it goes.

  21. All of you are so kind to each other that I am compelled to step out of the shadows and write this. After a third of a century(!) I have just finished my second book, RONDO, which I haven’t yet figured out how to e-pub even with the excellent advice I find on this site. Today’s post is very helpful as well, since I don’t have a website, Tweet space, or a public FaceBook presence yet. At 74 I am having trouble with this modern way of publishing. When the first book, HOUSTON HEAT, came out in 1979, it was done the ol’ fashioned way–and I got all of .15 cents per $2.50 sale–CBS Fawcett Gold Medal–remember them? CBS divested, including my second contract, to Random House Bantam; but I just wasn’t able to finish the book; and when ten years laterI did, Bantam didn’t want it. Can ya believe that! I rewrote it–another twenty or so years. You can see why I want to e-pub, yes? How much of an investment is it to do the e-pubbing right, would youall say? Any and all thoughts would be helpful to me. Again, your kindness is so appreciated. DW

    • SK Holmesley says:

      Hi DW,

      Without knowing which application you’re using (local or online), there’s no way to advise. However, most recent versions of the more popular applications have an “Export” menu item. Again, the most recent versions include an option to convert your text to .epub. But without knowing your setup (hardware/OS, application [local or web-based], etc.), there’s no way to actually tell what facilities you have available.

    • Talli Roland says:

      First of all, thank you for your kind words. Secondly, I can definitely see why you want to epublish! It can be very difficult for traditionally published authors – or anyone, really! – to come to terms with formatting. As SK says, it’d be great to know a little more about your set-up so we can offer some practical advice.

  22. Claire Matthews says:

    Great list, Talli. The only thing I would add would be the endless “events” I’m invited to on FB. I guess I just don’t understand the whole event function. I mean, a book launch, I totally get. But sometimes I don’t even understand what the event in question is, and I’ve been invited to twenty other events by the same user. Perhaps it’s just user stupidity on my part, but I’ve come to ignore most events, unless I’m good friends with the “host”.

    • Talli Roland says:

      Hi Claire! Ah yes, the FB events! Ans don’t even get me started on Goodreads events. Like you, I usually ignore all events now unless it’s someone I know!

  23. I’m with you on all those, Talli!

    One of my biggest bugbears on Twitter is when someone has tweeted an author saying they enjoyed their book, and the author RTs the tweet and replies publicly, instead of just to the individual, so that everyone can see it.

    Authors who just seem to be constantly boasting about their sales/number on the bestseller lists/awards, etc. drive me crazy too. (But maybe I’m just jealous.) I don’t have any problem with authors tweeting about that stuff if they also tweet about other things and engage with people. It’s authors who seem to do nothing else that get to me – same as the ones who do nothing but shout ‘buy my book’.

    Another one I hate is the ‘get me to X number of followers’ tweets – as if it’s all about the numbers.

    • Talli Roland says:

      Hi Clodagh!

      I think I’ve fallen foul of the first one a few times – usually when I first launch a book and I want people to actually know it’s out there. I do try to be judicious and only retweet a few here and there. As for sales, I agree. I try to limit that to major milestones, but you’re right – when it’s constant, it’s grating!

      And oh yes, the followers thing drives me crazy, too.

      • It’s all about balance, though. I think any of these behaviours are forgivable when they’re in small doses and coming from someone like yourself who spends the majority of their time engaging with people, and posting helpful links and info, etc.

  24. I don’t ‘get’ twitter. I just don’t use it. It intimidates me.

    [*this from an author who studies martial arts and wields a pair of Okinawan sais*]

    Facebook was easy enough to use until everything else got connected to it, and now when I do something on one website, it automatically gets reposted to all the other social media sites. It’s like … ‘drat … you mean that reposted?’ I mean … who CARES if I ‘liked’ a review of a book on Goodreads and it automatically gets reposted on Facebook and Twitter. Or if I ‘like’ a friends funny picture, but then it goes viral and I get spammed with all the responses. Annoying! Still trying to figure out how to tweak the settings and un-connect everything.

    • SK Holmesley says:

      I so agree on this. I get so annoyed on FB when I like something one friend or a family member has put up and everyone else (even though it’s a very limited group on FB for me) gets spammed. I hesitate to like anything anymore, but tend more to send an off-wall note if something a friend or family member posts catches my attention.

    • Talli Roland says:

      Anna, I hate that everything is connected through FB now – it drives me crazy!

      And on the FB ‘likes’ etc – I’m pretty sure there *is* a way to stop following the certain post… if only I could remember what it is!

    • Anna, once a post/picture/link you “like” on Facebook starts to accumulate a number of comments, an “unfollow post” link appears just above the body of the post/picture/link. Click that, and you won’t receive the comments in your inbox (although you’ll see notifications in you notifications feed), but your “like” and any comment you made will remain intact.

  25. It’s definitely a reaping and sowing situation. I love sharing things on my page that my successful author friends are doing – I want my friends to know. But I think it’s totally trashy to post my info on someone else’s wall – especially uninvited! Yikes!!

  26. Joe Bruno says:

    I have both Twitter and Facebook accounts and I have a Facebook Mobstersgangs page. On my personal Facebook page, I have 3767 “Friends.” But I personally know about only 300.

    The more I use FB and Twitter, the more I realize it’s a waste of time. All my FB posts are automatically put on Twitter, so that’s one less headache.

    As for FB, I post articles from my book once or twice a day on both FB pages. Plus mobster pictures, that refer to the articles.

    Has it increased my sales substantially? I can’t tell, but I think not.

    Still, I do it because it may work, and I’d be a fool not to try everything I can to sell my books.

    Even Larry Block, who has been writing books for 55 years thinks Twitter and FB may be a waste of time. He tried it for a while and found it time consuming. He thinks our time will be better used writing, instead of internet networking.

    He may be right.

    • Talli Roland says:

      I think it may partly depend on the readers you’re targeting. For me – with books aimed at females between 18 – 50, many of my readers are on FB and Twitter, and I’ve found it a really great place to interact with people.

      Thanks for sharing your experiences!

  27. Joe Bruno says:

    When people post uunwanted postings on my wall, I make them an offer they can’t refuse (unless it’s a personal message or greeting). It never happens again.

    That way I won’t have to leave the gun and take the cannoli.

  28. Great list. I second all the mentions of FB groups and events. And I really hate that when you decline, you’re asked “why”? Um, because you’re a pushy idiot I don’t even know, that’s why. But of course I don’t say that. I scurry away as if I’m the one who did something wrong.

    On Twitter my most unfave is the “you followed me so now you have to FB friend me and read my boring, narcissistic blog and buy my book” DM. I’m especially annoyed by the ones who say “follow my blog so you can learn how to be a published author too!” If they haven’t even bothered to find out I’m a multi-published author with one of the top 50 blogs for writers, then why are they following me?

    • Talli Roland says:

      I hear you, Anne. You would think people would take the trouble to at least learn a bit about you. Thankfully no-one has yet asked my why I’ve declined to join their group. Eep!

  29. Good reminders – thank you. I don’t mind friending and liking back on FB, but if the person asking is too far away from my sensibilities, I politely ignore the request. After all, those likes show up on my wall!

  30. I find with Twitter, once you follow more than about 100 people, your stream of tweets is impossible to read anyway. It just scrolls past in a blur, so I don’t get annoyed by the promo tweets or RTs because I barely see them!

    DMs annoy me – unless it’s from someone I know, of course. And that thanks for following here’s my book/page etc, let’s connect elsewhere. As for FB, there’s a whole lot of stuff I just don’t get on there. I think it’s days are numbered. Wonder what the new thing will be?

    • Talli Roland says:

      Joanne, I wonder that too. It’ll be interesting to see what the future holds!

      And I’m thinking of using Tweetdeck to sort my favourites. I’m just not sure I can be bothered to sort through 3500+ contacts!

  31. Joan Reeves says:

    It’s like Joanne Phillips said, ” once you follow more than about 100 people, your stream of tweets is impossible to read anyway. It just scrolls past in a blur….”

    I just can’t keep up with the Twitter stream. For people I actually know, if they send me a msg. and ask me to Tweet or RT, I don’t mind at all.

    It’s all those people I don’t know who, the minute I click to Follow them back, inundate me with requests. Will I blah, blah, blah for them? Uh, that’s a NO.

    • Talli Roland says:

      Joan, I agree! I hate the requests that flood your DM inbox. So annoying.

    • Following Tweets via Twitter online is madness. I use Tweetdeck and organize the people I follow into categories, with each category getting its own column. It’s much easier to follow that way, and you can follow a line of thinking. For example, I have a column for Kansas People and Places, a column for Weather, a column for Kansas News, a column for Writers, a column for Publishing Industry, a column for Food, etc. They scroll more slowly that way and are easier to skim through.

  32. As for the blur caused by more than following a few dozen people, I use tabs and streams on HootSuite, which is really helpful. But I still can’t keep up with it and I think I’ve made peace with that fact. It’s that, or die trying!

  33. deniz says:

    Endlessly RTing the same message about a novel, especially if the tag line you’re using is gross or rude or just plain weird (e.g. “more fun than a BJ in an alley” or some such nonsense).
    Is it really obvious if I unfollow someone?

    • Talli Roland says:

      Hehe! Love your example, Deniz.

      Some people use the ‘who unfollowed me’ (or something like that) app on Twitter so they can spot who has dropped them. Personally, I have better things to do!

  34. Wow! I could have written this list. And I’m not even that old!

    I would also like to add that it’s bad form to follow someone on Twitter just to create a notification, and then unfollow that person. You’re obviously not that interested in me if all you’re trying to do is prompt an automatic following from me.

    I think that some writers believe that all writers have a duty to go out of their way to promote other writers. This is not so. We should support writers in their quest, but that’s not the same as providing free advertising. I promote books and authors and blogs I believe in without anyone asking. I’m just not likely to put my name on the line to RT something I know nothing about.

  35. My newest pet peeve is when someone has linked their Facebook and Twitter accounts. There is one person, in particular, that comes to mind. She tweets something (which is fine!), but then it shows up in my Facebook newsfeed on her personal page and her two professional pages, which are also linked to share with each other (somehow). In the end, one Tweet = 5 Facebook posts. That’s not okay. Really, it’s not.