WG2E Guest Angela Brown (WG2E Write Well Series): In Your Life’s Tag Cloud…Remember “You”

Please give a Big Ol’ WG2E Welcome to our Guest, Angela Brown!

She’s got fabulous scoop to share with us as part of our new WG2E Write Well Series!

We can’t produce great writing and run successful epublishing empires for the long term if we don’t take care of ourselves along the way…

Imagine life as a tag cloud. When I did this for myself, the really BIG things that stood out were:

Chipmunk – nickname for my daughter.

Work – the paying gig that I have to attend to Monday through Friday for 8 hours in the day.

Paying debts – Life could be a little different without debts. But I accrued them and understand I must honor them. That’s the way it goes.

God – I’m far from the sanctimonious type and have my own thoughts and beliefs that aren’t meant to be forced on anyone else. But God is something very important in my life.

Writing/Reading – Okay. I’m obsessed. What can I say?

Great list right? Yeah, except one thing is missing…

Me.

I forgot about me on a regular basis. Not the stuff that matters. You know, like inhaling, exhaling, blood pumping through my chest, flowing throughout my body so everything stayed as alive as possible. Those things were and are, thankfully, automatic, or I’d be in serious trouble. I forgot about taking time out from being a single mother, an employee, a writer and a reader to tend to me. This pic tends to be the end result:

Some may ask, what does it matter? Don’t you accomplish a lot every day? Won’t taking time from things slow your momentum?

My answer? Yes, it matters a great deal. I’m glad to accomplish all that I do, but what good will it do me if I’ve run myself so ragged that I haven’t the energy or clarity of mind, body or soul to appreciate it? As for momentum, that is something that can be renewed with vigor after having a chance to re-energize from the inside out.

Taking time out for self can come in many forms.

*Tai Chi

*Yoga

*Meditation

*Running (not my thing but I’ve got a few runners as friends and they swear the runner’s high is so awesome. I’ll take their word for it lol!)

*Walking – This is what I prefer to do. I can slip my ear buds in and disappear into my mind while Linkin Park reminds me I’m not the only one “Crawling in my skin” sometimes.

*Hanging with Ben & Jerry and The Avengers – Just you, your favorite ice cream (or snack) and a good movie or a couple of DVR’d episodes to refresh yourself and ease out of deprivation mode.

Just you. No waiting on someone else, helping someone else, doing for someone else…

Just you.

It’s important to pencil in a little time for “just you”.

A car needs maintenance to run its best. So do we.

I’ve found that I’m able to give my kiddo, my job and my dreams the BETTER part of me instead of the WEATHERED part of me.

And you can too.

So, don’t forget about you.

What about you, WG2E-Land: How do you take care of YOU while building your Epublishing Empires?

~~~ Angela

About Angela:

Born and raised in Little Rock, AR, Angela now calls Central Texas home.

Reading and writing have been lifelong passions. It was around the time she gave birth to her forever-love, nicknamed Chipmunk, that she really took writing seriously. After all, how could she teach her child to follow her dreams if she hadn’t tried herself?

As a YA fantasy/sci-fi reader and author, she favors the magical, mysterious, the darker side of life…even harbors a secret fright for things that go bump in the night.

NEVERLOVE is a special project spawned from a blog-challenge-turned-blog-opera, the Abby and Basil affair. It is the first in the Shadow Jumpers series.

And here is where peeps can haunt, “Like” or follow me:

Goodreads author page: http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/6476148.Angela_Brown

Angela Brown in the Pursuit of Publishness blog: http://publishness.blogspot.com/

Amazon author page: http://www.amazon.com/Angela-Brown/e/B009JJEX60

Partners in ParanormYA (with Gwen Gardner): http://partnersinparanormya.blogspot.com/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/neostateofmind

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Comments

  1. Sibel Hodge says:

    This is soooo true, and something that I forgot about last year to the detriment of my health. Me time is so important. What’s the point of working so hard at the cost of your health? A great inspirational post! :)

  2. Liz Matis says:

    Hi Angela: This is such a great post! I do Zumba 3 times a week and Body Pump 2x. During the summer I will take walks which always seems to free up my muse.

    Oh but one time during Zumba I started thinking about my book and lost track of where we were in the song. :)

    • Angela Brown says:

      Ref: one time during Zumba I started thinking about my book and lost track of where we were in the song.

      That muse kicks in at the most interesting times lol!

  3. Glynis Smy says:

    Angela, great advice! I decided to take a look at me last January. I upped my health lifestyle and lost weight, a lot of weight. My mind is sharper now, and I am glad I looked out for me. Happy New Year, folks.

  4. It’s so hard to remember to be good to yourself when life gets in the way. Very good reminder!

  5. D.D. Scott says:

    I just luuuvvv this, Angela, and thank you sooo very much for reminding us to hug and love and be good to ourselves as we go into the new year!

    It’s just too darn tempting to take care of everything and everyone else except “me,” so I’m really working on that in 2013.

    I do eat totally organic now and have never felt better as far as my physical health goes, despite my Crohn’s Disease. But when it comes to getting out of my chair and moving my ass – as in around the block or local walking trails, yeah, well, that don’t happen near as often as it should.

    More fresh air and time spent outdoors in nature, resulting in less time at the computer, is one of my big goals for 2013. It’s time to recharge my well a bit!!! :-)

    The business end of our epublishing empires can be all-consuming if we let it, and I’m not going there this year! Yayyy Me!!!

  6. Great post, Angela! I especially loved this line: “. . . I’m able to give my kiddo, my job and my dreams the BETTER part of me instead of the WEATHERED part of me.” What a great line! And boy, that is my goal for the New Year–to give the better part of me instead of the weathered part of me. I need to take care of me better so I have the energy to give the other things I love in life (it can’t ALL go into writing!)

    Thank you for sharing.

    (P.S. I love your sense of humor.) :)

  7. Good point, Angela! If we’re drained, we have nothing to give. I rely on the gym, movies, and playing my guitar to keep me refreshed.

  8. Julie Day says:

    Yes, I have to get out of my chair more as my mum keeps telling me I spend too much time sitting. I usually have an hours nap in the afternoon which refreshes me for the evening, and that is my me time. My mum and I keep saying that we have to start exercising again, and will do that in the new year – next week.

    • Angela Brown says:

      I’m also learning how to combine certain things and understand that there are just times I have to say no so that I can get in writing time, reading time, time with my Chipmunk and a little “me” time as well.

  9. Michele Winkler says:

    Hello Angie,

    Thank you for the timely reminder! Someone once told me to fill up my own well first, then give to others from the overflow. It is so easy to forget.

    My daughter is an opera singer, and she tells me that the most important part of singing is the breath you take just before the opening notes. That one breath determines how the whole song will go. It got me wondering about what a ‘writer’s breath’ would look like, feel like, and how, if we’re having trouble writing, is it really not about the writing at all, but the ‘breath’ that’s absent?

    Sounds like you caught your breath!

    Michele Winkler

    • Angela Brown says:

      Ref: if we’re having trouble writing, is it really not about the writing at all, but the ‘breath’ that’s absent?

      Michele, that is a perfect question and a strong possibility that for some, that could truly be the case. That “writer’s breath” is missing and some “me” maintenance could help get things back on track.

  10. Gwen Gardner says:

    This is such great advice. I always have the best intentions to do something just for myself, but somehow, for some reason, “me” is the first thing that gets pushed to the side. Definitely going to try again, though :-)

    • Angela Brown says:

      Pushing ourselves aside is the easiest thing to do, especially when we’re always used to putting others first. I have to make a concerted effort to make my “me” moments because I can’t help wanting to help or do things for others. :-)

  11. Alison Pensy says:

    Great post and a great reminder. I try to work on me but sometimes fall into a relapse at certain times of the the year. I am currently in the ‘calm before the storm’ part of the year (I’m a tax preparer, too) so I know in a few weeks I’ll probably just about have enough spare time to eat and pee until it’s all over for another year LOL!!

    • Angela Brown says:

      Tax preparer? Oh, yeah, now is probably a great time to gather all the extra “me” time before the unorganized – like me – come a knockin’ for your help :-)

  12. Lois Lavrisa says:

    Angela- Welcome! and thank you for reminding us to take care of ourselves- it is so easy to get caught up in doing everything for everyone else and leaving ourselves last (or not at all) on the list:)

    • Angela Brown says:

      Yeah, I wasn’t even on my own radar for quite a while. But finding myself ill more times than I wanted really helped to bring some important things to mind. It’s been a slow process – and still ongoing since it’s so easy to slip back into “do everything for everybody else mode”. I’m trying to do better with each year.

  13. Great post, Angela! Thanks for sharing. The more I take care of ME, the more time and goodness I end up having for those around me. It’s strange how that works. I exercise 3 to 4 times a week and I take time to play the piano and read every once in a while.

  14. Thanks for the great post! I’ve started exercising again and after I convinced myself to change my outlook from “God, I hate doing this,” to thinking about how good I feel afterward, it has helped. I’m still not a huge fan, but my dear hubby got Netflix working on the TV where my elliptical is so now I find a good series w/o commercials and the time practically flies by! :)

    • Angela Brown says:

      It’s amazing how just the tiniest adjustment of perspective can help improve things immensely. Of course, doing a great workout while enjoying a great series on Netflix is also a plus :-)

  15. Karysa Faire says:

    What an inspirational post, Angela. Thanks! After reading I immediately went to my gym’s website and scheduled out the next week. To put this into perspective, I’ve had the membership since June, 2012 and I’ve NEVER GONE.

    So yes, thank you!!!!

    • Angela Brown says:

      Awesome Karysa! If what I mentioned today can help even one person take that first step toward a happier, healthier them, then I’m honored and humbled. May this new year bring you more time spent recharging “you” so that you can give more quality “you” to the loved ones and activities you’re involved in.

  16. Such good advice! Peace of mind in being able to enjoy personal time off keeps us sane!
    Thanks, Angela.

  17. Great post, Angela! And so incredibly true, yet so hard to do! Thanks for the reminder of how important it is :)

    • Angela Brown says:

      It really is hard setting that time aside for self, but it sure does help when you’ve got the recharged energy to give more to the things you want to accomplish :-)

  18. Laura Eno says:

    This is so true! Me time gets bumped to the back, especially now that I’m writing. It’s easy to burn out that way. This is a great reminder, Angela!

    • Angela Brown says:

      Especially as “working authors”, it’s easy to bump ourselves to the back burner with so many things happening. It’s easy to burn the candle at both ends.

  19. Candilynn says:

    That’s super advice for the upcoming new year. The hardest part for me is putting it into motion and sticking to it. I’ll have to put forth more effort. It’s refreshing to hear your enthusiasm and motivation, Angela. Thanks for sharing!

  20. What a great reminder, Angela! I am guilty of disregarding the need of putting all my responsibilities and activities aside and getting a much needed rest/stress relief. I don’t subscribe to the New Year’s resolutions regime, but I should make one exception and work on incorporating a “me time” into my weekly routine.